Pay It Forward Wednesday: My commitment to help the world in the smallest possible way

I’ve just hung up from a long conversation with a dear friend of mine.

The conversation started with me being quite upset about a certain issue. An ongoing issue. I had been doing much better, but today I remember I needed to do something which proved to be a major trigger for me.

I listened as she did the talking.

She opened up more than ever before about certain challenges in her life. Challenges that people just don’t know about, or discuss.

As you read this, I am sure you can identify with this statement.

I am also recently familiar with the act of Paying It Forward. What is it? It’s the random act of doing something kind for someone who hasn’t done anything for you. Instead of returning a favour you do good because you can.

The conversation with my friend made me realise that we just don’t know the shit the random person on the street is going through. Frankly, many of us don’t even know the struggles our nearest and dearest are facing because they are so well hidden in the deepest parts of our souls. People wear masks.

Unlike Oprah and Ellen, my focus will not be on giving people cars, money or lavish experiences(but frankly, I wish I could!!).

My acts will likely be words. Words have a profound impact on the way people view others, and themselves. Even if it’s just for 5 minutes. By saying something nice to someone may distract them momentarily from the fact their parent is dying, how they are going to pay their mortgage or deal with their bully of a boss. It may also just make someone feel that fuzzy feeling inside. It may also confuse someone and be fodder for the chatter around the water cooler!

Whatever the outcome, I want to try and put a smile on someones face.  Not because I have to, or am obliged to, but because I want to and feel it’s important.

I am so deeply thankful for the people in my life who have the patience to coach me and give me their time. They do it because they care for and love me. In some cases, they may feel it’s part of their role as my friend or family member.

But to say or do something nice and sincere to a complete stranger is not expected and often means more.

So once a week I will do something nice for someone. It may be a stranger, but it may also be a family member or a friend. Either way it will be unprompted.

It’s a small way I can help make some people feel a little happier, even if it’s for a split second. Will you join me on this journey too?

Get your breasts checked!

Today, a woman touched my breasts. And at the end of it, I wondered why I hadn’t been offered, or asked for it before.

Naturally, I am talking about having my breasts checked for cancer. What did you think I was talking about you scoundrel? 😉

Every second year I get my pap smear without fault. I grew up in a medical family, so I get these checks done religiously.

However, I visited a new GP. And after my pap smear she asked if I wanted to get my breasts checked too. I originally said no thinking that only older women need to get their breasts checked for lumps.

With such issues, I don’t consider myself naive. However, when I asked the Doc at what age should women be getting checked, she said from 25 years old. Crap. I was 31 and I had never had my breasts checked for lumps.

For older women, they need to have regular mammograms.

Lucky, there was no issue. This time.

I typically don’t blog about such things, but if someone who is fairly careful didn’t know to get my breasts checked as a 31 year old woman, then how many others aren’t getting tested too? This is not OK! Particuarly as early detection could be the different between life and death.

So, here I am. Asking you to speak with your doctor about getting your breasts checked at the same you get a pap smear.

 

2015 resolutions: Update

In January 2015, I set myself 10 targets for 2015.

I feel it is time to update you on what I have managed to do and those I have not been so successful doing.

For your memory, here is the original post.

Out of the 10 goals, I have only stuck to two. haha! Luckily there is still 5 months of 2015 to turn the other goals around….

The main item I needed to succeed in, was a shopping ban. No new clothes in 2015! Well, I am so pleased to say I have not bought any new clothes in 2015. My wardrobe is bursting at the seams as it is, so nothing more would fit, more importantly it’s wasteful. I have so many clothes that don’t fit or simply are not my style.

As a result, I am in the (SLOW!!) process of going through all my clothes. I have given about 30 items to charity and plan to sell about 50 more. There are some I am putting in storage for when I lose those extra 10, 20, 30 kgs…..

The other goal I’ve been semi  successful with is not biting my nails. Semi successful because there have been times where my nails have been so short they have bled. Other times they have been long. Right now, they are growing. They are not long, but at least I can wear nail polish without them looking ridiculous.

As I write this post my nail biting habits remind me of life. Sometimes it’s ugly, raw and painful and other times it’s peaceful, colourful and beautiful.

Right now, my nails and I are somewhere between.

From The Vault: Feeling good

As I am on an extended phone call with Optus about some billing and technical issues, I was looking through my drafts folder trying to find another post I started yesterday. I found the below blog post, which has never seen the light of day! It reminded me of how powerful I felt at the time – I felt I could take on anything! But, we all know nothing in life lasts forever; naturally this is both good and bad. Anyway, I hope you enjoy reading it, and reminiscing, as much as I did!

“As I embarked on the Sydney Skinny swim, I never imagined that I would be sitting here feeling healthy as I do.

I have been pushed by Vision Personal Training Mosman which has seen me drop a dress size and feel so much stronger and fitter. But, I have also had some great help from Blackmores who helped make sure I get the right vitamins and minerals into my body for general good health.

About a month ago, I visited the Blackmores HQ and met with naturopath Kate. Firstly, what a gorgeous girl! She spent time with me going over my eating, exercise and general lifestyle choices. As a result, she recommended a variety of  vitamins and minerals which would help me be the best I can be during my swim.

Despite being a sceptic about pills and potions, I stuck to the plan given to me and am now at a stage where I am confidently going into the swim from a health and well being perspective.

One of my concerns, was a cough I developed after a 24 hour plane ride from NYC in November last year. After using it as per the instructions, the cough disappeared completely within 5 days! I don’t believe in miracles, but…..

So, here is a list of the products Kate, and Blackmores kindly gave me so that I am in best possible shape for the Sydney Skinny.

Alive! Women’s Multivitamin contains vitamin D, selenium and vitamin C to help support immunity and keep you well in the lead up to your swim, and B vitamins for energy.

Kaloba® to help you get over the last of your cough

CoQ10 antioxidant support for your training and helps to support energy production

Magnesium Powder magnesium supports muscle health, relieves tired and sore muscles, cramps and spasms. It’s also another energy nutrient.

Skin Support contains herbs and nutrients to support healthy, clear skin.”

Nail (polish) Me: How to Open a Stuck Bottle of Nail Polish

At the beginning of the year, one of my resolutions was to grow my nails.

Well, for the vast majority of this year I failed. However, over the last few weeks, my nail biting habit has been a little more restrained.

Even though I typically get manicures (helps with not biting my nails!) today I decided to paint my stumpy nails. As I tried to open my OPI Top Coat, the damned thing was stuck.

So, it seemed like the perfect opportunity to demonstrate how to fix this all too common problem.

Firstly, try wrapping a rubber band around the cap; more often than not if fixes the problem by giving you some extra grip.

However, in my case I needed something a little more hardcore. Thankfully, it’s an easy solution.

You just need to:

Hold the base of the nail polish and keep the cap under running hot water. Hold it there for at least 30 seconds.

OR

Pour some hot water into a bowl or glass, and hold the base of the nail polish but submerge the cap into the hot water. Again, hold it there for at least 30 seconds.

I needed to repeat this process twice for about a minute per time.

After I managed to open the lid, I used a cotton wipe and ran it over the top and sides of the nail polish jar to prevent it from happening again!

It’s so simple but so effective! You’re welcome 🙂

Feeling raw

I am feeling raw. A lot has recently happened.

Typically, I’m not known to sit back and not fight back. For a time, I’d lost my fight. Thankfully, time continues to pass; the sun continues to rise in the morning and set in the evening.

I want those who are also going through a shitty period to remember that things get better; whether you achieve resolution or not.

The essence of this blog, which is to live an honest and authentic life full of passion, has never been more important.

 

So, hold onto your pants because I am planning on a lot more content!