What’s in a name?

Thank you, thank you, thank you. For your messages, calls, DMs. For your kind words and support. It means the world to me that you’ve embraced the concept of Sisu & Finn. It is an exciting, albeit very scary, adventure which is driven by wanting to give women of all shapes and sizes clothing options.

Since the announcement, I’ve had quite a few questions about the name; so here is the context.

The last two years have been particularly challenging for me. Through that process I’ve had to look into the black abyss that’s inside all of us and use sheer grit, and determination to overcome the challenges that presented themselves to me. With most things in life, nothing is absolute. So the process continues for me. However, I knew that to support my big, ambitious soul, I needed to create something which reflected me, my passion for pushing boundaries and serving the broader community.

With that in mind, the words which helped create the name were always going to play an important role in the overall ethos of the brand. And when I stumbled across Sisu, it instantly resonated with me and I loved it. It felt right. It’s a Finnish word (hence the Finn) which means stoic determination, grit, bravery, resilience, and hardiness. It’s about taking action against the odds and displaying courage and resoluteness in the face of adversity. Doesn’t that perfectly describe what’s needed to live an authentic life?

It summed up what was required of me the last two years, but on further reflection, my whole existence. Being what society hasn’t considered ‘normal’ has always demanded an extra level of grit and determination. I see that grit and determination in your words and faces too. And Sisu & Finn’s purpose is to help support you; to give you options and to be a place where you can be comfortable to express yourself.

So that my dear (petite, curvy, ‘normal’ and plus sized) friends is how Sisu & Finn came to be.

Feel free to check out the site. As it is a work in progress, feel free to send feedback to info@sisuandfinn.com.au and tell me what you want from the site. And if you agree with the ethos, please share the post with your friends and family.

An exciting new adventure

My dear long lost friends…..sorry to be MIA.

I’ve had a few things on my plate, of late. Surviving is one. OK, that might be slightly dramatic, but that’s how it can sometimes feel.

More excitedly, just shy of 6 months ago, I decided to start my own business. I am so unbelievably excited by this and since then, I’ve had this unfamiliar feeling of satisfaction, freedom and fulfilled. It’s also terrifying, but lets not focus on that.

As you know from my ramblings on this site, I have a passion for people and clothes.  So, I’ve decided to pull those passions together and build an online store for the plus size woman. For me, and for you.

It’s in the process of having final touches added but it should be launched within the next couple of weeks – don’t worry, I will let you know when it’s live.

After a LONG time debating a name, I chose Sisu & Finn. I LOVVEEEE this name and as soon as I understand what Sisu meant, it felt right. I was debating other names for 2-3 months before stumbling across the word Sisu.

Sisu is a Finnish word which loosely means stoic determination, grit, bravery, resilience, and hardiness and is held by Finns themselves to express their national character. … It’s about taking action against the odds and displaying courage and resoluteness in the face of adversity.

It perfectly describes my last two years. My world has been turned upside down, back to front, pulled up and down. I’ve spent this time questing my identity and what’s truly important to me; maybe now there will be some purpose and peace. I want so much for myself, and for you too.

The site isn’t live at this stage, but please add your details into the holding page so that you can keep up to date with all the exciting new developments as they happen. I will still blog, so you will still hear about my adventures here.

Thank you for your patience and support!

Laters baby (if you can figure out the reference, I will send you a virtual kiss).

 

 

 

PCOS, hormones and excessive facial hair

This post isn’t my most glamorous….

But for so many women around the world, including myself, polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) has many, many unglamorous downsides – including excessive facial hair.

I know my PCOS is going crazy when my facial hair starts to grow very quickly. It’s typically in the same spots; just under my chin and the sides of my face. I pluck, and wax, but within a couple of days the hair is back; and it’s angry. Even though it can be a lot worse it does make me uncomfortable and at times self conscious.

After many conversations with a friend of mine about hair removal for women with hormone imbalances, I decided to give electrolysis a go. Thankfully for me, she has been my (and our!) guinea pig. She has plucked, waxed, done laser and electrolysis; for her, the only treatment which stopped the areas affected by hormones was due to electrolysis. However, it is painful and expensive.

Thankfully my friend researches everything to an inch of its life and has recommended the Advanced Electrolysis Centre in Sydney.

I called to see when the next available appointment was and as I have luck on my side, they had a cancellation and I am going to visit them today. The next available appointment is in three weeks!

I will let you know how I go…..

The joy of a skirt

I’m not what many would consider a high maintenance female – well, in the dressing stakes anyway.

But I do believe my femininity should be expressed. Like my blogging, sometimes it needs to be expressed regularly and sometimes not. I do know that it happens when it happens – naturally.

Not only does my femininity allow me to feel more sexy, but it can boost my confidence and empower me to do what needs to be done – whether that be in my personal or professional life. Femininity is the opposite to masculinity and when you work with, and have relationships with men, sometimes ying is needed to counteract the yang.

There are many ways a woman can feel more feminine; makeup, lingerie, sex, a dress or a skirt; and the best part, is it’s different for every woman. No wonder so many men are confused with how to please us!

To me however, the skirt in particular satisfies a strong sense womanly allure.

Here are some photos which inspires and satisfies my sense of femininity.

What satisfies yours?

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The Long Silence

Something I’ve recently learnt is the importance of sitting still and thinking. I’m naturally an extrovert and with that comes the need to vocalise many of the thoughts running through my brain. I no longer believe this is entirely necessary nor something I want to give.

Apolgies for the silence but despite promising posts it has been necessary that I stop, think, question, source information and learn. As self indulgent as this sounds, it needs to be about me. A lot has happened over the past 6 months but the last 4-6 weeks I’ve finally reached a stage where I’ve learnt to look and analyse myself. I can more clearly hear what people are telling me and I’m open to absorbing the messages needed to help me evolve.

It’s only recently that I have learnt to comphrend what the concept of personal change means.

I’ve been asking myself significant questions around what makes me happy – Career? Friends? Money? Men? What’s important to me and what do I want from life.

Unlike William Shakespeare’s famous quote “what’s in a name?”, where Juliet argues it does not matter that Romeo is from her rival’s house, the name of this blog, the connection and authentic representation to and of my life very much matters.

I look forward to sharing an evolved representation of what living as a quaintrelle means to me but it won’t be immediate.

Project Pheonix – Rise From The Ashes

In Greek mythology, a phoenix is a grand bird which continuously is reborn.

Apparently it obtains new life by rising from the ashes of its predecessor, which according to some sources, dies in a show of flames and combustion.

As I reflect on the past few months, this analogy rings true. The difference with me, is I have not yet arisen from the ashes. At this stage there is no bird – the ashes are still re-grouping and waiting for rebirth.

What I am certain of, is that the next version will be better than the last. And when adversity hits again in future years (which undoubtably it will – as is life!) then this repeated process will again happen and I will continue to grow and develop.

I know many of you are on your own journeys, so I encourage you to follow, as I have dubbed my journey “Project Pheonix”.

What steps am I putting in place ? Well, you will need to wait for an upcoming post to read the how…..:)

Phenix

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A Tale of Online Dating: An Ongoing Situation

Dating has never been mentioned on this blog before. But, at the moment it’s a big part of my life, and this blog is about my life. So here goes.

In April this year I decided to join the world of online dating. I have been on it before, many years ago – several of my relationships have been from the online world.

This time, I joined because I wanted to add some further depth to my life. I have an amazing circle of loyal friends, I have a career but I also wanted to meet more men. Casual fun? Dating? Romance? To find the love of my life? Honestly, I didn’t know what I was after – most likely a mix of all the above. Lets just throw myself in and see what happens.

I started on eHarmony, where I met a fabulous guy who I was completely enamoured with. Charming, intelligent, successful. Out of respect for him, I won’t go into any details but needless to say it didn’t work out. Thankfully, he remains in my life albeit in a very small way.

Now, I am working Oasis. After being on it for a few short days/weeks I thought it was a site for booty calls. Essentially you review peoples profiles, you like them (or not), and if you’re connected, you start chatting!

I. Chat. A lot.

Luckily for me I’ve had some amazing dates from it. Interesting people, interesting conversation. I’ve learnt a lot about the process, communication, men and myself.

I’ve also come to the realisation I’ve never really dated before. I’ve been in relationships, sure. But not done the dating rounds and far out it is a hard gig. The world certainly does have some interesting characters in it! But other than that it’s relentless. I am sure there are many of you who understand what I am talking about….

But, the more I do it, the more I realise how much I don’t know. it has given me a better understanding of what I do want from life and a partner. And more importantly what I need. What does a healthy relationship look like for me? What makes me happy? What’s negotiable in a partner? And what’s not? What annoys me? The answers are not always what I originally thought.

I’ve also learnt the importance of hedging ones bets. Is this wrong? I find that when I like someone, I need to all of a sudden have a full pipeline of men to chat with and date – just in case in goes pear shaped.

Who knows if any of these suitors will work out but the only thing I can do is try to be open, honest and hope I meet that special someone. And if not, at least have a damn good time!

If anyone has any suggestions or recommendations about dating (or dates!!!) please drop me a line! I am more than willing to hear it.